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Over half of Americans have needed to use their “resting gift face” (RGF) during the holidays — masking their disappointment with a poorly presented gift.
The poll of 2,000 U.S. adults who celebrate winter holidays looked at the phenomenon of “resting gift face” RGF, which is the expression someone gives — intentionally or unintentionally — when receiving a gift that poses confusion or questions (is this a gift?) and misses the mark.
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